The path to Tranquility (summer)
84. Taking responsibility for our life
When we come to this world, we are completely blank. Entrusted in life and
growing in it, we cannot leave life, which makes life the most important
thing to us. Therefore, we should learn to be responsible for our own lives,
which not only means being responsible for our body and mind, but also for
the people and things around us, that is, being responsible for everything
related to our life. By taking responsibility for ourselves, we feel safer
and therefore more confident. Being responsible means that we make decisions
bravely and carefully, whether they are simple daily choices or major
decisions about the direction of our lives.
As children, we are used to letting our parents make decisions for us. This habit can lead to indecision as adults. We even deepen this habit into a procrastination habit, actually avoiding making decisions about our own affairs. There are many ways to evade decisions, such as fortune-telling, blaming parents or past lives, following the opinions of relatives and friends, or following social customs. This kind of evasion makes our actions not out of our own inner true needs, but to cater to the outside world.
To get rid of this habitual evasion, we must understand the importance of making decisions for our own life. Everyone's body and mind are unique, and only we know our own feelings and needs best. And giving decision-making power to others is likely to be detrimental to us. Therefore, even if there is a possibility of making mistakes, it is most reasonable to make decisions by ourselves. This principle can be extended. Even if we can provide assistance when necessary, we should try to let others make decisions for themselves and give others more freedom.
Leaving the decision-making power to others also indicates that we are trying to evade responsibility. But we cannot evade our responsibilities after all. If we entrust others to make decisions for us and make mistakes, our hearts will blame ourselves for making mistakes, and will also blame ourselves for entrusting others. Because entrusting others to make decisions for us is also one of our decisions, and making mistakes on this decision is more likely to make us regret. Our hearts will strongly feel that we should not make mistakes on this point.
Therefore, whether it is to give ourselves a better feeling, or to meet our own needs and grow ourselves, we should give full play to the role of consciousness and directly make decisions for our actions. Sometimes the consequences of actions seem unbearable, especially those major events in life, such as career and marriage. But being prepared to bear it is a manifestation of wisdom and courage, which can make us stronger. Moreover, the more serious the consequences and the greater the responsibility, the less we should let others make decision for us. This is because our life is our own, not others'. Even if nothing goes wrong by leaving the decision to someone else, we miss an opportunity to grow. We must actively decide how to act in order to improve our consciousness. By bearing the consequences of our own decisions, we can better improve the way and method of making decisions.
When facing difficult choices or decisions, we need to focus more on the needs of our hearts and not be affected by surface benefits. For example, when looking for a partner, if we find that we are choosing from two options and are hesitant, we should realize in time that we do not really like these options, and a reluctant choice will bury unfavorable factors for our future life, we must decide to give up. In the choices, as long as we maintain rational thinking, we can keep our pursuit goals consistent with the goals of life, make firm determinations, act bravely, and then bear the consequences. In this way, we can not only improve the quality of life and happiness, but also have more opportunities to discover the truth. It is worth emphasizing that when encountering obstacles that cannot be overcome alone, such as physical diseases or pains, we should actively seek the assistance of others, especially professionals such as doctors.
Life is a precious journey. By taking responsibility for our own life, and making decisions for our own affairs, we can shape a self full of joy and achievement, and contribute to the creation of a beautiful world. When we take responsibility for our own life, we will decide to take care of our own body, including maintaining a healthy diet, appropriate exercise, and regular work and rest, and will also put down attachments and illusions, reduce stress and anxiety, and maintain a healthy psychology. This means that we always think about life, get rid of habitual or emotional behaviors, and stay away from things that harm life. In this process of taking responsibility for our own life, our body and mind can be fully utilized and remain flexible, so it is also the key to longevity.
Growing from unconsciousness to consciousness, we have the ability to take responsibility for our own lives. Therefore, we should use the power of consciousness to make our life safer and richer. In fact, life needs everyone to work together to maintain it. Taking responsibility for our own life also means creating a better environment for ourselves and others to survive and grow better. The highest value of life is connection. Therefore, our ultimate goal is to establish good interpersonal relationships through taking responsibility for our own life, jointly protecting life, and realizing the full value and meaning of life.
83. Listening brings us beautiful and fulfilling relationships
85. Allowing children to express themselves authentically
