The path to Tranquility (spring)
47. Destiny is created by ourselves
Destiny is a topic that no one can avoid, as it covers our past and future. Many people believe that destiny is an arrangement of nature, like an invisible hand guiding our lives. But in reality, everything that happens in life stems from our choices and actions. No matter what circumstances we live in, we can influence the future by changing ourselves and thus create our own destiny.
Destiny is very subtle and its formation is closely related to our thinking patterns and attitudes. Thoughts and emotions also become part of our personality and shape our lifestyle habits. Generally speaking, the stronger the habit, the more fixed the destiny. From this we can see that some destinies are relatively fixed, while some destinies change relatively quickly.
Having the right and sufficient awareness, as well as a positive and open mindset, will allow us to solve difficulties with resilience and wisdom, and not give up easily. In this way our destiny will be stable and upward. On the other hand, if we get caught up in negative emotions, we become passive and fearful, and it is difficult for us to fully realize our potential. Moreover, when passivity and fear become stubbornness, we will make choices or actions that are not in our own interests, making our destiny bumpy.
Stubbornness is an unconscious character trait that often manifests itself as an unwillingness to compromise. It keeps us stuck in our own opinions and unable to accept the advice of others and make changes. This state will cause us to miss opportunities for growth and success, and even lose our way in the chaos. For example, in the workplace, if we always stick to our own working methods and are unwilling to learn new skills, we may eventually become obsolete and be eliminated.
However, the line between stubbornness and persistence is often blurry. Stubbornness is the blind defense of a habit or position and is an unconscious behavior. Persistence is a choice based on rational thinking and a conscious arrangement when facing difficulties and challenges. In other words, stubbornness means that we must stand here, while persistence only sees how long we can stand here. Therefore, stubbornness can trap us in rigid thinking patterns and prevent us from adapting to changes in the environment. Persistence allows us to move forward steadily in a turbulent environment and move towards our ideal goals.
From the perspective of destiny, stubbornness can make us become like machines. At this time, we don’t know where destiny will take us. The disconnection from reality makes destiny as unpredictable as a dream. Bound by unconscious stubbornness, our actions may seem free, but they are actually a waste of energy and unable to cope with the challenges of reality. The result is that we either repeat the mistakes of the past or create more chaos for the future.
Stubbornness not only affects personal decision-making, but also makes it difficult for us to work with others. When we insist on our own opinions and ignore others' views, we may end up causing unnecessary conflicts. This is especially true when working in a team. If team members are stubborn and opinionated, the decision-making process will become slow and inefficient. This means that, as long as we have an open mind, we can benefit from other people's experiences and expand our own horizons.
In fact, stubbornness is a life habit, so we need to get rid of it as well. As with getting rid of other habits, we need not only perseverance and courage, but also the cultivation of flexible thinking. Many situations in life are unpredictable. Only by maintaining keen observation and an open mind can we avoid dangers and discover new opportunities in the midst of change.
If we put aside our stubbornness and look at destiny with a clear mind, we will find that it is essentially a cycle of cause and effect. We can actively choose to act to break this cycle and change our destiny with more wisdom and insight.
The key to our destiny lies not in whether we can avoid difficulties, but in how we deal with them. Destiny is not static. If we can take responsibility for our own future, we will be able to find opportunities for breakthroughs even in unfavorable situations. Every setback is an opportunity to grow. As long as we look at problems with an open mind and always maintain a learning attitude, we will surely be able to find a stable direction in the waves of destiny.
Ultimately, our destiny depends on our choices and attitudes. Every moment and every choice in life is constantly creating our destiny. The more stubborn a person is, the more rigid his thoughts, the more fixed his destiny, and the more difficulties he encounters in life. Only by raising awareness and embracing change can we see our destiny clearly and establish a new order in chaos.
Destiny is like a mirror, reflecting our inner world. If we maintain our rational persistence, do not compromise because of threats, and do not give up because of emotional changes, it will be easier for us to achieve our goals and ideals. In this way, we will also create a better future, that is, a better destiny.
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