The path to Tranquility (spring)
48. Only by accepting ourselves can we grateful to our parents
In everyone's growth process, parents are undoubtedly the most important support. They worked hard to foster our growth and gave us a lot both materially and spiritually. Such giving sometimes brings us tremendous pressure. However, even if we feel dissatisfied and disappointed with our parents, we still have to learn to be grateful. This is both a reward to our parents and a relief, allowing us to bravely step out of the boundaries they set and achieve autonomy and independence.
Being grateful to our parents does not mean that we should deny our own feelings. We can understand that our parents are limited by their experience and their actions and choices may sometimes hurt us. But these can also be important lessons in our growth. For example, some parents are too strict when educating their children, causing their children to suffer psychological stress. But it is this experience that prompts children to learn how to be strong and how to find opportunities in adversity.
Gratitude is not only an emotion, but also an action. Whenever we feel dissatisfied or resentful towards our parents, it actually reflects our dissatisfaction with ourselves. By learning to find opportunities for growth in difficult situations and transforming those negative emotions into gratitude, we can take an important step forward. Deeply understand our parents’ background and difficulties, learn to be grateful to them, and in the process we will find our own value.
Learning to be grateful to our parents is also a process in which we learn to accept ourselves. Accepting ourselves is the basis for our gratitude to our parents. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, which are part of our lives, just like a puzzle, each piece has its value and meaning. Only when we fully accept ourselves can we truly understand our parents' choices and let go of our obsession with them.
From another perspective, not being grateful to your parents actually means not being grateful for life. Hating our parents or not being able to forgive them is actually hating ourselves. Hate is an unconscious expression, essentially opposition to existence. Therefore, to be grateful to our parents, we must first resolve hatred and let love fill our hearts.
If we love ourselves, it will be easy to forgive our parents even if they hurt us. The reason is simple, without parents, we would not come into this world. Love also makes us realize that our parents not only gave birth to us, but also, without their care, we might not be able to grow up. Even a moment of negligence on their part could endanger our lives.
When we fully accept ourselves and our hearts are filled with love and joy, we will feel deep gratitude towards our parents. It is our parents who bring us into this world and give us the first opportunity to experience the joy of life. When we experience the beauty of life, we can be grateful for everything our parents have done for us. Just because our lives are so wonderful now, it proves that everything our parents did in the past was right. If they hadn't done that, we wouldn't have what we have today.
Therefore, parents don't need to worry. As long as the children live a good life in the future, they will definitely be grateful to their parents. If parents also live a good life and are grateful to their parents, the children will have a good role model. The key to a good life is that we are grateful for life. Start by being grateful for our own lives, then being grateful to our parents and others, and then being grateful to nature. Being able to do this proves that we fully accept ourselves and have a wonderful life.
47. Destiny is created by ourselves
