The path to Tranquility (spring)
48. Forgiving and grateful to our parents
In our growth process, parents are the most important people. They have given
us a lot, including time, money, and energy. Although we may feel dissatisfied
or disappointed with them for some things, we need to learn to forgive them
and be grateful to everything they have done for us, so that we can truly
become independent from our parents.
However, it is impossible to truly be grateful to our parents unless we accept ourselves and live in a loving environment. Some people will angrily ask their parents why they brought them into the world to suffer. Some people even hate their parents for giving birth to them without their consent, so it's hard to forgive their parents, let alone feel grateful.
Not being grateful to our parents is actually not being grateful to our own lives. Hating or not forgiving our parents is actually hating ourselves. Hate is an unconscious expression that also reflects resistance to survival. Therefore, to be grateful to our parents, we must first turn hate into love.
If we love ourselves, it will be easy to forgive even if our parents have hurt us. Because without our parents, we would not have come to this world. We also realize that our parents not only gave birth to us, but without their care we would most likely not have grown to adulthood. Even a moment of negligence on their part can endanger our lives.
Hate and love both come from our life energy. If we do not accept ourselves, and therefore the world, then the energy of life will produce hatred, and it will lead us to destruction. Negative emotions are the prototype of hate, which first damages our body and mind. But it’s not easy to fully accept ourselves. Most people will accept certain traits of themselves, otherwise it is difficult to survive, but they are unwilling to accept all of themselves.
Accepting ourselves, like being grateful to our parents, also must start from being grateful to our own lives. We can first be grateful to the parts of ourselves that we accept. Life is a whole, and if we can accept and be grateful to a part of ourselves, we will gradually understand that we should accept and be grateful for all of it. This is because without the parts we do not accept, the parts we accept and be grateful to would not exist.
When we fully accept ourselves, our hearts will be filled with joy, and the energy of life will produce love, and we will also have deep gratitude for our parents. They brought us into this world and gave us the first opportunity to experience joy. If we have experienced the beauty of love, we can be grateful to everything our parents have done for us. Because our lives are so beautiful now, it shows that everything our parents did in the past was right. If they did not do that, we would not have what we have today.
Therefore, as long as the children live well in the future, they will definitely be grateful to their parents. We don’t have to worry, because a key factor in living well is being grateful for life. When we live well and be grateful to our parents, our children will also have good examples. From being grateful for our own lives, to being grateful to our parents and other people, to being grateful to nature, being able to do this means that we accept ourselves and have a wonderful life.
47. Destiny is created by ourselves
