The path to Tranquility (spring)
45. Building a true home
Perhaps we have yearned for distant places and dreams, but we can never
find a place to settle down. Despite constantly searching far and wide, we
fail to realize that true settlement must begin with settling our own hearts.
To settle is to live in the present. Continuously searching will not bring us
settlement, because we must invest time and effort to build a true home.
Maybe we have lived in many houses, but few of them were true homes. Houses may have the appearance of a home, but they never last, and the sense of belonging quickly disappears. Or they lack a sense of security, and a little doubt or fear can destroy it. These are just substitutes for a home. If we do not invest our true selves in it, the house is just a place for our bodies, and our partner is just a roommate. Therefore, no matter how many houses and roommates we change, a true home will never appear.
A true home must be built from the inside. After growing up, when we are still alone, we must consciously conceive a blueprint for a beautiful home. We must not only find a place to shelter, but also find a place to deposit our emotions and souls, and find a career to strive for throughout our lives. Material and psychological comfort, a warm atmosphere, and similar values are all elements that a true home must possess. The true foundation of this home is self-awareness, and with this foundation, we can understand how to harmonize each other's needs.
Building a true home is a great undertaking in life. Both external and internal undertaking are closely related to our consciousness. Internal undertaking determines our choices and abilities for external undertaking. Therefore, we must first learn to love, which is the greatest undertaking of the soul. Understanding love means that we understand our own and others' true needs, are willing to do our best, build and maintain together, and overcome difficulties and share the fruits of our efforts with others.
External careers must all cooperate with others, and learning to love can make cooperation happy and successful. We also need to discover true lovers in order to build a true home. Without people who truly love each other, we lack the mirror to see our souls and cannot see our own hearts clearly, so building a true home cannot begin. We will continue to search, continue to ignore our inner needs, and ignore the beautiful things around us. But a real home is made of countless small and beautiful things.
With a partner who can help each other and share the results, the mind can be at peace, so no matter where the body stays, we can appreciate the local life and environment. Our needs will not be too many, and with two people working together to build, a true home will appear, and we will naturally feel tranquility and joy living in it.
44. Get rid of the desire for excellence
46. Love is a powerful influence
