The path to Tranquility (summer)
95. Only by stepping out of loneliness can we find tranquility and love
In the era with social media, many people are still wandering in the shadow
of loneliness, searching for their emotional ties. Loneliness is a profound
feeling that leaves people feeling lost and helpless, as if they have fallen
into an indescribable ocean of solitude. However, it is through stepping out
of loneliness and reaching out to others in the same situation that we can
find that precious tranquility and love.
Tranquility and love are not only a feeling but also our real needs. Therefore, loneliness is a warning to us, reminding us to pay more attention to establishing real and sincere connections with others. Behind digital interactions, face-to-face communication and companionship become more precious. To find real tranquility and love, we need to learn to establish more substantial interpersonal relationships in real life. When we accept our fears and find ways to treat ourselves sincerely, we can accept everything about others and make the relationship more intimate.
Intimacy is like a sky within us. If we hope to fly with others side by side, and live in the same sky intimately, we must have a pair of wings like a bird. One side of these wings is tranquility, and the other side is love. Without either one, we cannot fly. These two wings grow together. However, from birth, we have lost the tranquility deep in our hearts and the ability to love others.
Before birth, we were in a state of tranquility and love. In the womb, we constantly absorbed nutrients from our mother and also provided many benefits to her. We were in a natural intimate relationship. Once we leave the womb, we are disconnected from our mother, and must face the world alone. Therefore, we instinctively feel fear.
We fear death because survival is the most basic meaning of life, and death will take it away. We also worry about relationships with others, especially intimate relationships. Because intimate relationships are deep connections between lives, they are the advanced meaning of life. If we cannot connect, life loses its true value. These fears make us feel lonely, lose tranquility and love.
Loneliness makes us desire to be loved. We desire for the protection and support of others to fill our lack and emptiness. However, when everyone is a taker and not a giver, we cannot be satisfied. The desire to be loved is a kind of taking, which is completely different from love. If everyone expects to be loved first and then consider whether to love others, then a loving relationship cannot be established. Even if the two can get together, it can only be a relationship of taking. It can be seen that if we continue to be lonely, we will continue to lack tranquility and love. This will make us more lonely and enter a vicious circle.
Loneliness brings anxiety and depression, and we must rely on ourselves to solve these problems. We must transform from takers to givers, giving ourselves what we need like a mother, and resolving the anxiety caused by needs. This can bring us relative peace. For example, after we solve physical needs such as hunger, there will be a period of peace. But this peace is usually broken by depression. Therefore, we also need to devote time to cultivating ourselves or other lives. When we pay attention to the real needs of life and try our best to meet them, we will no longer be depressed. In terms of methods, we can care about our own growth, or take care of some small animals, etc.
By solving anxiety and depression, we can step out of loneliness and gain lasting peace. In this way, we also overcome fear and are willing to give ourselves to others, actively developing loving relationships. Only in loving each other can we experience real tranquility, because we have a closer connection than before birth. Tranquility symbolizes that we have love accompanying us, and we will not feel lonely even when we are alone.
Connecting with other life closely is our mission and value. Therefore, we must first step out of loneliness, develop intimate relationships in peace, and then establish close connections with others to gain tranquility and love. As long as we cultivate the consciousness of love, we will find that tranquility also grows in our hearts, gradually growing into a pair of free wings.
94. Fully enjoying the journey of life
96. True happiness comes from loving each other
