The path to Tranquility (spring)
50. Don’t make decisions in hatred
Hatred is a strong emotion that grows quickly in our hearts when we feel hurt. Unlike other emotions, hatred often drives us to make rash decisions, which in turn has a huge negative impact on our behavior. However, major decisions made out of hatred often bring regret and pain. This is because when our hearts are filled with hatred, we tend to become biased, ignore facts and logic, and even lose sympathy for ourselves and others.
The root of hatred lies in the deep fear of loss, especially the anxiety about the passing of life. This fundamental fear affects the way we view others, thus distorting the mirror through which we view ourselves. Many times, we don't realize that the intensity of our hatred actually reflects our own responsibility. Putting all the responsibility on the outside world will not relieve the burden in our hearts. Therefore, if we hate others, we will also fall into the vortex of hating ourselves.
In essence, hatred is a rejection and denial of life, so every decision we make should not be based on hatred. Hatred is like nuclear fission. Once it starts, it will produce a chain reaction, which will make us fall into a state of negativity, pessimism and anxiety, making it difficult to make decisions that are beneficial to ourselves, and even induce blind risk-taking and destructive behavior. What is even more worrying is that the negative consequences of hatred not only erode our physical and mental health, but also spread to other people, eventually forming a vicious cycle that is difficult to escape.
But this does not mean that we should suppress or deny hatred, but learn to understand and accept it. Hate is part of human emotion, the key is not to let it dominate our thoughts and actions. When we feel anger, disappointment, or sadness because of hatred, we first need to accept the existence of these emotions and listen to the urgent messages they convey. These messages may suggest that we have unhealed wounds or tell us about the need to protect ourselves and the necessity to transform pain.
At the same time, we should not let hatred blind our enthusiasm for our current life, but learn to let go of those obsessions. When we use rationality to reignite our consciousness, we can pull ourselves out of panic, calmly see the truth of the facts, and understand other people's feelings and motives. When our mentality gradually returns to warmth and kindness, the entangled hatred will naturally melt away, allowing us to focus more on our own happiness and growth.
Taking the workplace as an example, misunderstandings often lead to unnecessary resentment, which in turn intensifies conflicts among colleagues. At this point, we should stop and ask ourselves: Is this dispute really worth it? Can we put aside our prejudices and try to face it with love and tolerance? Actively seeking a solution acceptable to both parties can not only calm the emotions, but also promote mutual sympathy and understanding, thereby ultimately eliminating conflicts and rebuilding an atmosphere of harmony and cooperation.
The existence of love not only makes us cherish others, but also inspires us to become better ourselves. It is the acceptance and support for life, and brings us experiences of joy, awakening and freedom. When love is deeply rooted in our hearts, hatred cannot exist, but hatred tries to destroy this love and plunges us into deep sadness and loneliness. Because of this, when we cannot feel the warmth of love, we should remain patient and not let emotions affect major decisions, so as to avoid causing irreparable losses.
We need to learn to calm down our emotions quickly and regain our inner peace so as to stay away from the harm that hatred may cause. Whether it's meditation, exercise or honest conversation, it can help us dispel the shadow of hatred. However, the most fundamental solution lies in the continuous cultivation of rationality and consciousness. Reason allows us to get out of the whirlpool of emotions and find effective ways to solve problems. When we are able to look at the world with a broader and more objective perspective and have a deep understanding of the roots and impact of hatred, we can greatly reduce the possibility of hatred growing and allow our destiny to develop in a positive direction.
It is important to emphasize that before making any major decisions, we should surround ourselves with an atmosphere of love, not hate. While hate and love are both powerful emotional forces, they guide our lives in diametrically opposed ways. Love represents the supreme meaning of life and inspires us to maturity and freedom. But hatred makes us fall into narrow-mindedness and destruction. Therefore, learning to manage the energy of hatred and transform it into a driving force for progress is a compulsory course on our path to growth.
51. Satisfaction comes from learning and progress
