The path to Tranquility (spring)
50. Don’t make decisions in hatred
Hatred is a strong emotion that grows within us when we feel hurt. However,
making significant decisions while in a mindset of hatred often leads to
regret. This is because hatred can cause us to ignore facts and logic, develop
biases, lose sympathy and empathy for ourselves and others, and become trapped
in a vicious cycle of negative emotions.
All hatred in the world has its reasons, and those hatreds that are deeply felt are caused by the direct participation of those who feel them. Maybe we want to put the blame on others, but we cannot absolve ourselves of responsibility. Because we live in this world, we have the responsibility to reduce hatred in order to protect our own lives.
Hatred is a resistance to life, so decisions should not be made in hatred. Hatred will bring more hatred, endangering our lives. We must make decisions in love, because love is the acceptance of life, which can pass love to more people and make life endless.
This does not mean suppressing hatred, but rather accepting it. Not making decisions in hatred simply means putting hatred aside and not letting it dominate us. With hatred, we become negative, pessimistic, and anxious, unable to make decisions that benefit life, and may lead to blind risks and destruction. All negative emotions have a similar effect to hatred, and we should also avoid making emotional decisions.
When we feel angry, disappointed, or sad, we should accept hatred because it is a normal emotion. But we should also ignore it and let it go away on its own. Put our focus on creation, return to love as soon as possible, and let reason dominate our minds again. After calming down, we have time to understand the truth of the matter, as well as think about possible explanations, and understand the feelings and motivations of others. When our hearts are filled with love, there is naturally no place for hatred.
Love is in line with the highest meaning of life and allows us to live more joyfully, consciously, authentically and freely. Love begins with loving our own lives, then loving other lives, and ultimately loving nature and the world. The essence of hatred is to destroy this love and ultimately destroy life, so it will plunge us into endless sorrow.
Therefore, if we don't feel love yet, let's wait a little longer and don't make any major life decisions yet. Learn to soothe our emotions and quickly regain inner peace, so we can stay away from the danger that hatred brings. More importantly, we should cultivate our consciousness and reason, so that we do not easily have hatred.
51. Satisfaction comes from learning and progress
