The path to Tranquility (spring)
40. Caring about the needs and feelings of others
Everyone has emotions, and the time it takes to calm down varies from person to person. However, caring about the needs and feelings of others is an important ability to build good relationships. In an increasingly complex society, this ability can promote mutual understanding and sincere cooperation. It is not only the foundation of a harmonious society, but also a necessary condition for our smooth life.
When faced with troubles and worries in life, we often become self-centered and hope that others can understand and respond to our needs in a timely manner. However, such expectations are often unrealistic. Others may not fully understand our feelings, and we may not be able to express ourselves clearly, leaving others at a loss as to how to help. This situation also highlights the importance of establishing good communication channels. Even in our closest relationships, we should never put the blame on the other person. Because the help others can provide is limited, ultimately we still need to face life independently.
For example, at work, when we face high-pressure situations, if we ignore the feelings of our colleagues and only care about venting our own dissatisfaction, it is likely to damage the cooperative relationship between each other and even affect the morale of the entire team. Imagine this scenario: an employee, due to work pressure, loses his temper with a colleague, causing tension in the team atmosphere. If the employee can express his or her own difficulties while also listening and caring about the opinions and needs of others, it is more likely that a solution can be found that everyone can accept.
In addition to classic ways of venting emotions such as singing, exercising or hitting a pillow, we can also write down our troubles, which will create a sense of being seen. We should also learn to express ourselves in a friendly way, especially to those close to us. Emotional management is important for everyone. Any impulsive words or actions may cause trouble or even harm to others.
Any good communication and interaction must be based on care and understanding. If we don’t care about other people’s needs and feelings, we add to their burdens and undermine their support. In this way, the distance between each other will become larger and larger, and trust will gradually be lost.
In addition, others also have to face their own lives, and we should respect and care about them. If their needs aren’t being met or they’re not feeling good, then their ability to help us is diminished. Therefore, we must care about others even for our own benefit. Not only does this help us solve our own problems faster, it also avoids conflicts that arise from ignoring others.
If our emotions have a negative impact on others, we should know how to ask for forgiveness in time. This is a responsible behavior that can consolidate others' support for us. Caring for others is not only valuable, it also reflects our understanding of ourselves and our environment. When faced with negative emotions or difficulties, our ability to still care about the needs and feelings of others is a sign of mature consciousness.
By improving emotional awareness and management and reflecting on our own words and actions, we can get out of the shadow of emotions more quickly and shift our attention to others and the environment. Even when things get tough, we can still maintain a harmonious relationship and be a support system that each other can trust. Therefore, let us start from now on, care more about the needs and feelings of others and create a more harmonious world.
41. Living peacefully is a test of wisdom
