The path to Tranquility (spring)
32. Allows emotions to flow naturally
Emotions are a natural response for everyone, and they need to be expressed
and released, otherwise they can have negative effects on our physical and
mental health. Considering work efficiency or life stability, we have to think
about how to deal with emotions, which is a big issue in life.
Every emotion has its own cause and meaning, so we should not try to suppress or cover it up, but should learn to accept and channel it to shorten the time it stays. We are more likely to accept positive emotions, so the problem is to quickly restore calmness and not let it continue to affect our decisions and behavior. As for negative emotions, since we are less likely to accept them, we need to observe and analyze them more.
When encountering setbacks, if we repeatedly hint that we need to be sad or angry, it will form an emotional whirlpool and make it difficult for us to get out of the mindset of failure. If we can recognize that the fewer emotions we have, the more reasonable our behavior will be, then there will not be too many negative emotions. It is not that emotions cannot be calmed, but that we keep stirring them up and becoming addicted to them. Therefore, we must first give up our reliance on emotions. Even positive emotions have addiction problems, and once addicted, they will also bring many negative effects.
Since childhood, we have developed a habit: if we don't have emotions, we feel that we don't exist or are not seen by others. Therefore, we use low emotions to make ourselves more sense of presence, and use this to stay away from others, savoring our self-created sadness. Or use high emotions to attract others' attention to make ourselves appear more gregarious, and gain more sense of security.
Although this habit helps us in our lives, there are contradictions hidden behind the emotions. One ego generates emotions, and another ego resists these emotions, forming a new conflict in the heart and making emotions more intense. If there is no rational intervention at this time, we will not be able to benefit from emotions, but will only become more and more emotional, and finally our body and mind will be poisoned by emotions.
Therefore, accepting our temporary failures and accepting others' attitudes and opinions will make our emotions relatively calm. It is also very important to accept our own emotions, because the inner conflict is the fundamental reason for the generation of emotions. If we can accept it, we can observe ourselves calmly and maintain rationality, and summarize the rules about ourselves from the ups and downs of emotions. Next time, we can correct our behavior in time before making mistakes, which can reduce the chance of failure and also reduce the generation of negative emotions. As for others, as long as they are around us, their emotions will also affect us, so we need to observe and provide assistance for them to form a friendly atmosphere.
Accepting and observing, analyzing and summarizing are effective ways to channel emotions. In emotions, our ego has become invalid or even out of control, and only consciousness can jump out of the vortex and control the situation, so this is very important. During times of calm, it is the time when we prepare our consciousness for emotional outbursts. As long as we are well prepared, our consciousness can save our lives in emotional storms.
Letting emotions flow naturally is actually letting the energy of life flow naturally. Without blocking or pushing, our body and mind will naturally be comfortable. By handling negative emotions well, we can establish pleasant emotional relationships with others, allowing emotions not only to flow within ourselves, but also to communicate with others. By being able to use emotions, our consciousness will also grow.
31. Life is a constant attempt
33. Treating all things equally
