The path to Tranquility (spring)
32. Let emotions flow naturally
Emotions are natural reactions that everyone is born with, just like the internal weather system, sometimes the sun is shining and sometimes the storm is raging. We need to learn to accept, interpret, express and release these emotions, otherwise long-term repressed or uncontrolled emotions may lead to physical and mental imbalances, such as anxiety, depression, and even health problems such as high blood pressure. Learning to let emotions flow naturally can not only improve the quality of life, but also is the key knowledge to improve work efficiency and interpersonal communication skills - this is a life course that requires lifelong learning and practice.
Every emotion has its meaning. Joy may come from achievement, anger may be a reaction to injustice, and sadness may come from loss. We should not regard emotions as enemies and suppress or escape them, but accept them and guide them. When facing emotions, the more you suppress them, the more likely it is to cause psychological conflicts; gentle acceptance can effectively reduce stress and promote psychological repair.
Many people are used to defining themselves by emotions: depression makes people think about their own existence, while excitement attracts the attention of others. However, dependence on emotions often hides psychological contradictions. For example, forcing oneself to stay calm when anxious often deepens the struggle. This mode of "fighting emotions with emotions" may make people more emotional and more physically and mentally exhausted if not taken seriously. Therefore, how to get rid of excessive dependence on emotions and return to the balance of consciousness is the core issue of emotional management.
Emotions are neither good nor bad. The key is to regulate them. People tend to embrace happiness and excitement and reject anger and sadness. However, overindulging in any emotion can impair rational judgment. For example, if the joy of victory makes people overconfident, it can lead to wrong decisions. Similarly, if frustration at work triggers anger, it may be a signal to adjust strategies. The key is to consciously observe emotions, shorten their stay time, and avoid falling into an "emotional vortex."
Accepting emotions does not mean letting them dominate, but learning to observe and adjust. Practicing skills in advance when the mind is calm can help us keep a clear head when the emotional storm comes. For example, when we feel angry, we might as well close our eyes, take five deep breaths, and feel the anger flowing through the body and easing. We can also use a diary to record emotional triggers and reaction patterns. Long-term observation can help us discover habits and make changes. The interpretation of events is also important: viewing failure as an opportunity to learn can reduce the erosion of negative emotions.
Emotions are not just personal matters, they also have a profound impact on interpersonal interactions. Other people's emotions will infect us, and our attitudes will also shape the atmosphere around us. When a friend is feeling down, actively listening and expressing empathy (such as: I understand that you are very sad now, is there anything I can do to help?) can not only comfort the other person, but also keep us stable and not get caught up in each other's emotions.
Different cultures have different attitudes towards emotional management. In some Eastern cultures, restraint is seen as a symbol of maturity; in the West, straightforwardness represents honesty. There is no absolute advantage or disadvantage between the two. The key is to find the balance that suits us best. People who know how to channel their emotions are more likely to establish harmonious interpersonal relationships. Leaders who know how to manage emotional stress can also inspire their teams instead of passing on anxiety.
Emotional management is not about ignoring feelings, but about growing from them. Setbacks contain wisdom, and success can also remind us to be humble and help us move forward more steadily. Athletes who reflect on their own shortcomings after victory often achieve better results. Studies have shown that good emotional management can help improve immunity, improve cardiovascular health, and even prolong life. This just shows that the flow of emotions is the flow of life energy, and whether it is deliberately blocked or aggravated, it will cause harm.
Incorporating emotional management into daily life can reduce the frequency of negative events and pave the way for achieving long-term goals. People who know how to regulate their emotions are usually more capable of leadership and are more able to make wise choices under pressure. Cultivate awareness during calm times and prepare before the storm so that we can correct ourselves before our behavior gets out of control. Emotions do not need to be suppressed or exaggerated, as long as we let them flow naturally, our body and mind will feel relaxed and stretched. This is a journey to explore inner harmony, helping us to distinguish our desires and true needs in the ups and downs of emotions, find a sense of security, and grow rapidly.
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