The path to Tranquility (spring)
32. Allows emotions to flow naturally
Emotions are a natural reaction for everyone. It needs to be accepted, explained, expressed and released, otherwise it will have a negative impact on our body and mind. How to let emotions flow naturally is important knowledge in life. Whether from the perspective of quality of life or work efficiency, this knowledge is something we must learn and practice.
Every emotion has a reason and meaning, so we shouldn’t suppress or hide it. On the contrary, we should learn to accept and channel it, shortening the time it stays. We are more receptive to positive emotions, so the key is to calm down as quickly as possible and not let emotions continue to affect decision-making and behavior. As for negative emotions, since we find it difficult to accept them, they require more observation and analysis.
When we encounter setbacks, if we repeatedly tell ourselves that we need to be sad or angry, it will form an emotional vortex, making it difficult for us to get out of the state of mind of failure. If we can realize that the fewer emotions we have, the more rational our behavior will be, and we will not be trapped by emotions. In fact, it’s not that emotions cannot be calmed down, but that we have been provoking emotions and indulging in them. Once addicted, even positive emotions can have negative consequences. Therefore, we must first get rid of our dependence on emotions.
Since childhood, we have developed a habit: if we have no emotions, we will feel that we do not exist or are not seen by others. Therefore, we use low emotions to feel our own existence, keep a distance from others, and savor the sadness we create. Or, we use high emotions to attract other people's attention, make ourselves appear more sociable, and thus gain more security.
Although this habit helps our lives, there is a contradiction behind it. When one emotion emerges, another emotion rises up to resist, causing new conflicts within us and making the emotions more intense. If there is no conscious intervention at this time, we will not only fail to benefit from emotions, but will become more and more emotional, and eventually our body and mind will be poisoned by emotions.
It can be seen that if we accept our temporary emotions and accept the attitudes and opinions of others, our emotions will be relatively calm. It is also very important to accept failure because inner conflict is the root cause of emotions. By staying aware and observing ourselves calmly, we can see our habitual patterns in the ups and downs of our emotions.
Accepting, observing, analyzing and summarizing are all effective ways to relieve emotions. When we are emotionally agitated, our behavioral habits become ineffective, causing our bodies to lose control. Only consciousness can help us jump out of the whirlpool of emotions and take control of the situation, so this is very important. In times of calm, we must be prepared to rescue ourselves from emotional storms.
By correcting our behavior before mistakes are made, we can reduce the chances of failure and the generation of negative emotions. It is worth noting that we should learn to find wisdom and strength in negative emotions, and maintain humility and balance in positive emotions. On the other hand, other people's emotions can also affect us. Therefore, we also need to observe other people's emotions and provide assistance to them to create a friendly atmosphere.
Letting emotions flow naturally is actually letting the energy of life flow naturally. Without blocking, suppressing or adding fuel to the fire, our body and mind will naturally feel comfortable and relaxed. If we deal with negative emotions well, we will have a better attitude towards others, which will help us establish pleasant emotional relationships with others. Through the flow of emotions, we can better control our lives, gain more security, and grow faster.
31. Life is a constant attempt
33. Treating all things equally
