The path to Tranquility (spring)
28. Love is like clear spring water
Emotions are an important part of life, from which we can derive pleasure,
happiness, and satisfaction. But if we neglect the cultivation of emotions, it
will become muddy and unclear, thus interfering with our work, study and life.
The first step in cultivating emotions is to let our emotions flow like clear spring water, rather than turbulent seawater. There is no need to expect passion, because it is only a desire, a temporary confusion. If we have a clear spring, the desire will disappear. Therefore, the disappearance of passion is something to celebrate.
Communication is the most important part of cultivating emotions. When we can express our feelings and thoughts honestly and listen to each other's hearts, our emotions will grow deep, natural and calm. If each other can share joys and sorrows and become dear people, emotions can be reflected in ordinary things. Like a deep spring, passion is only a phenomenon when the spring water first gushes out. As the spring water continues to gush out from the bottom, we see a calm water surface.
The reason why emotions are calm is because we have learned to tolerate. Accepting each other's different habits and thoughts, respecting each other's choices, and appreciating each other's differences reduces conflicts and makes emotions more harmonious. There will be conflicts at the beginning of an emotional relationship, and passion is a force that transforms conflicts. Just like turbulent seawater evaporates into clouds and rain, then becomes calm spring water and streams, continuing to nourish the earth. Similarly, when passion transforms into true love, returning to consciousness and reason, valuing and caring for each other's needs and feelings, pure emotions can create a better life.
The phenomenon of emotions changing from intense to calm is often misunderstood, because we are accustomed to those exciting emotions. Once we become calm, we worry that the relationship will become boring, and that the other person is tired of us or ignores our needs. The more we worry, the more we suspect each other, and the more we increase our fear and helplessness.
At this time, we need to realize that fear is a signal that tells us to pay attention to the development of the relationship. Don't look at the present through the eyes of the past, let alone imagine the future with fear, but let fear increase our awareness and give us a deeper understanding of passion, love and marriage.
Passion is an emotion aroused by desire. If it affects judgment, we will mistakenly think that two people are a perfect match and ignore communication. Although passion is also what brings two people together, love is the foundation of a stable relationship. If we can communicate and understand each other frequently, and know each other's sincerity, then we can let down our defenses and connect our true hearts. When we become intimate, the relationship transforms into true love.
Mutual understanding, care, and respect, this is the true love. In love, each other truly likes each other, so together day and night but still attracted to each other, and willing to do the best to meet each other's needs. Each other works for mutual interests, so love is not only an emotion, but also a relationship created for sharing everything.
Marrying for love is to protect love from outside interference. Having a home for mutual learning and growth is like having a pool of clear spring, allowing love to flow smoothly and lasting. When we feel this tranquility and profundity, we will naturally understand the true meaning of love. It is a higher power that extends life and also a clear spring that continuously nourishes our souls.
27. Being an observer of emotions
29. Sincerity is beneficial to life
