The path to Tranquility (summer)
72. Harmonious affection stem from loving each other
Harmonious affection is like the beautiful scenery in nature, which makes
people happy. But true harmonious affection can only appear in relationships
based on loving each other. Love is the flow of life energy within the
channels of consciousness. When we love each other, the energy flows from
one end to the other and back again, with each cycle increasing the energy
because each other is pouring vitality into the channel. We first receive
nourishment from within, then grow outward, while also absorbing nutrients
from the outside world to nourish each other's body and mind.
This exchange and sharing of energy is a harmonious rhythm in nature. When people love each other, communication and sharing become an important part of their lives, causing resonance like an echo between two peaks, creating a pleasing melody. We may have experienced that when we focus on expressing to others, or focusing on feeling others, this melody will sound in our hearts. And even if we have never heard the definition of love, we can feel that this is the prelude to love. As we continue to experience each other, the affection of each other will deepen together.
Harmonious affection stems from respect and understanding. When we respect each other's presence, are willing to accept each other's imperfections, and can understand each other's situations, the most basic love is present, and emotions will not be disturbed by trivial flaws. True harmonious affection gradually manifests in the process of mutual growth. When there are shared goals and ideals, mutual trust and support, it's like two trees with connected roots, demonstrating the fusion of life. The most profound harmony is felt when there's sincere care for each other. When we care about each other's joys and sorrows, affection becomes even more intimate, allowing the flow of life's energy to move smoothly between each other.
For relationships that have not yet reached the point of loving each other, due to the obstacles of each other's habits, the flow of energy is intermittent, which will make people feel disharmonious or erratic, causing worry and fear, and worry that the relationship will eventually break down. Such concerns are legitimate, because a relationship established for mutual love may turn into an ordinary relationship, or even a hostile relationship, if the feeling of mutual love is not achieved for a long time. Whatever our superficial reasons, the deepest reason for being in a relationship is to love each other, because the purpose of life is connection, and only loving each other can achieve that purpose.
Therefore, we need to establish a consciousness: emotional relationships are like rowing against the current. If there's no progress, there will be regression. Because people are selfish and want to be happy, no one wants to waste time in a relationship that stops growing. Under the guidance of this consciousness, actively develop relationships, or decisively withdraw from a relationship that has no future. Our goal is to love each other, and those relationships that cannot achieve that love certainly have no future. And being attached to those relationships will cause us to lose precious time and miss the opportunity to develop a mutual loving relationship, which is equivalent to losing part of our freedom. In real life, whether it is friendship or marriage, when we find that it has lost the role of mutual help, we should consider improving or quitting. We can see that many harmonious relationships develop after getting over failed relationships.
The essence of love is a form of flow, reflecting a higher level calling in our life. It is the power of nature that prompts us to continually give, so love will never stop, just as the river water will always flow to the sea. Furthermore, because love can invigorate people and keep their bodies and minds in a positive cycle, love can nurture even more love. Harmony and resonance are generated in this never-ending cycle. As long as we have a giving heart, find someone we are willing to give to, and consciously develop affection for this person, it will be easier for us to establish a loving relationship. That is to say, we need to be willing to share everything about ourselves with each other, including wealth, feelings, life time and even life itself. Regarding this point, we can see many people fail because they are unwilling to share, and we can also see many people succeed because they are willing to share their lives.
When we feel the harmony of love, it means that our hearts have merged and our values and goals have become consistent. In a state of harmony, the energy of love flows between each other, and decisions about major life events will take into account the overall interests of both people. This also means that the harmony resonates, making each other's voices louder. Therefore, this harmony is a reflection of each other's physical and mental health and a phenomenon of true love. For example, in a relationship, when we feel that there is no longer conflict with each other, emotions and reason can work closely together, and the ability to live independently is also growing, we can realize that we are in love with each other.
In the early stages of building a relationship, there will always be moments of disharmony. Don't worry, when two people who grew up in different environments and have different habits come together, they shouldn't be expected to love each other at once. Conflicts are inevitable, and relationships will also go through downturns, but as long as they are willing to continue to improve the relationship together, increase mutual awareness through communication and adjustments, and let go of egos, they can gradually coordinate. Even if harmony doesn't come immediately, when they no longer worry and fear in the relationship, harmony will also naturally arise. And this harmonious affection will become a confirmation of their wonderful relationship.
71. From natural rights to shared freedom
73. Harmonious affection stem from loving each other
