The path to Tranquility (spring)
58. Resolving unreasonable fears
Fear is a common emotional response that reminds us to stay alert and avoid
harm. But fear is just an alarm signal, not a real situation. When fear deviates too far from reality and becomes
Unreasonable, it will have a negative impact on daily life and work, and may
even turn into psychological diseases, such as acrophobia, social phobia, etc.
Unreasonable fear can hinder our growth, make us numb and shrink, and make us psychologically fragile. It can also make us lack the courage to face new things, be afraid of making mistakes, and limit our thinking to a small range, like living in a narrow space. Fear deviates from reality, which reflects our lack of understanding of ourselves and the environment, is also a curse on ourselves.
When we are constantly afraid, relief from fear becomes the only thing we need to focus on. This is equivalent to entering a dream state and being unable to have a normal understanding of reality. For example, if we are afraid of being rejected, we will not dare to confess to the person we like. When we imagine the awkwardness of being rejected, we will flee. This will make us unable to understand the other's wishes and also ignore our own true needs.
Being afraid of being rejected and avoiding action, this will certainly not lead to being rejected, but we need a living environment with emotional communication, otherwise the feeling will be worse than rejection. Moreover, living in fear will often desire to obtain and avoid giving, resulting in a passive and suppressed state, not only making emotions more negative, but also more disconnected from reality.
When fear is too strong, we suppress our emotions and behaviors. But suppression is also an unhealthy practice, because it will make us fall into excessive imagination of dangers, generate more fear, and enter a vicious cycle of emotions. This is like having a microphone too close to a speaker, causing a squealing sound. So the excessive fear can even be life-threatening.
Excessive fear will also cause the body to produce a large amount of toxins, which not only makes it easy to get sick, but also causes premature brain degeneration because consciousness cannot grow. This is the biggest problem caused by fear. If we live in fear for a long time, we will definitely not be healthy and live long.
However, fear is also a part of life, and we should accept it. When we feel fear, we can try not to instinctively suppress ourselves, but to pay more open attention to others and the environment, let our consciousness catch up in time, discover the source of fear, and allow ourselves to get through difficult moments safely.
Resolving unreasonable fear is similar to resolving other psychological problems. When we focus more on love and practice love, cultivate a giving mindset, fear will decrease. Because through love we can transcend egos, no longer afraid of losing, and thus get rid of excessive imagination, and gain enough consciousness to become a powerful life.
57. Transcending those Free Birds
59. Cultivating reliance in ourselves
