The path to Tranquility (summer)
105. Familiarity is the basis of love
In the development of a love relationship, familiarity and freshness are like
two beautiful melodies, one calm, the other passionate. Familiarity brings
people closer to each other, while freshness makes encounters exciting and
interesting. The resonance of these two melodies makes us feel the comfort and
encouragement of love.
From the beginning of life, the world gives us a sense of freshness. Mother, food, language, other people, even love are all new to us initially. New things appear naturally, and through feeling or understanding, we turn freshness into familiarity. Familiarity is something we acquire selectively, and the display of autonomy is part of our vitality and represents our consciousness. Therefore, familiarity allows us to understand each other faster and brings more security.
In fact, most of our surprises and expectations stem from some familiarity with things. For example, when we go to a restaurant for the first time, although there are many unfamiliar choices on the menu, some of the ingredients are already familiar to us. This sense of familiarity allows us to enjoy new flavors without feeling uneasy. It can be seen that the sense of freshness is an extension of the sense of familiarity, rather than a completely unfamiliar feeling.
Familiarity is the basis for our deep connection with the world, so it is the main theme in love. As time went on, we got to know each other better and our thoughts and feelings became more aligned. This sense of security allows us to cope with life's difficulties together more calmly. It is conceivable that the reason why a couple can be closely dependent on each other is because they have the experience of living together and have a deep understanding of each other's emotions and consciousness. This sense of familiarity is an indispensable capital of a love relationship.
As long as love continues to develop, we will not lack freshness. However, for a relationship to become deep and lasting, it often needs to gain understanding and respect from familiarity. We need to find where our feelings belong. Therefore, the desire for love reflects our desire for familiarity. If we understand the importance of familiarity, our relationships will become more mature and stable. As long as we cherish this sense of familiarity, each other will be able to withstand the test of time and love each other forever.
After a good experience, we are more willing to understand each other's feelings and thoughts. As we become more familiar with each other, we will have more confidence in the relationship, allowing us to open ourselves up more and allow the other person to make new discoveries. So, as love develops, we create a beautiful piece of music. We constantly transform freshness into familiarity and create more new things based on familiarity to make love more harmonious.
Excessive pursuit of freshness can lead to anxiety and restlessness, and it also means that we develop narcissism rather than love. In true love, freshness and familiarity complement each other. As long as we wholeheartedly accept each other's past and are willing to explore new territories together, we can experience love as fresh as ever. For this reason we not only explore the outside world, but also visit each other's souls.
In love, we not only get to know another person, but also get to know the true self. The support of a partner allows us to dare to face our inner anxieties and fears, thereby becoming more familiar with ourselves and achieving the growth of consciousness. When we face stress, the presence of a partner is like a light, not only guiding us out of difficulties, but also allowing us to understand our potential more deeply. It is this kind of mutual trust, encouragement and help that gives love an extremely precious value.
By focusing on every moment of our lives, we will find that we are always fresh. As we become more familiar with ourselves, we develop a deeper reliance to ourselves. In this way, we can also gain a fresh sense of freedom and replace various habits with a higher level of consciousness.
Familiarity is like the sugar needed for life, and freshness is like salt. If we can regard familiarity as the cornerstone of love and care about the small details between each other, we can continue to create fresh lives. In this way, love can steadily play a beautiful melody, allowing each other's souls to reach a higher resonance in new explorations.
104. Get out of our own subjective world
